We’ve heard the expression the grass is greener on the other side but I overheard the most amazing conversation between my mom and her girlfriends. They were engaged in an intriguing even heated discussion about said grass and I had to eves drop because it was juicy and I couldn’t wait share my nosiness with you, so I pulled up my chair and got an earful.
The conversation went a lil something like this “It seems like now a days people are falling in love with the idea of love” Not knowing that falling in love is the easy part. BEING in love, STAYING in love is the work. One woman said, “Don’t get me wrong, the work is well worth it with the right partner, but couples today are out just as quickly as they got in. As soon as trouble comes, to the other side of the fence they go!”
Then they all rattled off the number of years that they’ve been married. The range was from 18 years to 45 years. I thought, wow that is a long time to be with one person. One of the ladies must have read the expression on my face because she quickly said. “Baby, not all of these have been easy, but worth every year” and the grass discussion ensued.
Grass doesn’t get green on its own it takes lots of work. You have to cultivate it, condition it, mow it, prune it, fertilize it, feed it, water it, get it ready for winter, get it ready for the spring and sometimes even talk to it. Weeds will pop up at anytime and anywhere so you have to have a watchful eye to keep your lawn free of those pesky weeds. The weeds are stubborn too and if not handled expeditiously they can and will take over your entire lawn. So weeds need to be nipped in the bud on site!
What does this have to do with relationships and marriage? Sometimes we think that another relationship is better because it looks like it is. The reality is ALL relationships take work and the time and energy you may spend pursuing another relationship is time that can be spent cultivating the one that you have. If you ask any couple that’s been twogether for any length of time and has weathered a storm or two, they will quickly tell you that the other grass needs upkeep too! Let us not be so quick to tend to someone else’s grass because their grass have weeds and a lil manure too.
Unfortunately most aren’t willing to put in the work it takes to cultivate their own lawns. Truth is the grass you mow, take care of and put in the work with can be just as pretty and green as the grass on the other side. It certainly helps when couples DO the work twogether. Remember the things that you did when you initially began primping your lawn. It’s important to do those same things and if needed be prepared to add a flower bed to spice things up and add a pop of color! Having a beautiful lawn requires some planning, preparation, work and you may have to get on your knees and get your hands dirty but believe me, if you put in the work you will realize that your green acres is the place to be!
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